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January 11, 2016

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What Doesn’t Define You

We recently asked our Be Your Own You fans to help us by contributing to our blog, and we received some great entries! We are proud to present our second guest blog, by Ida Ploug Pahus, blogger and author. (18 years old)

When I was 16 years old I published my first book. For many years it had been such a big dream of mine, because since I was 5 years old I have loved to write. When I made the decision to publish my book at such a young age, I was terrified at first. Wasn’t I too young? Would people be jealous and be mean to me because of it? Would anyone like it?

But I soon realized that my age or what other people might think of me and my book did not define me. Age is just a number, it tells you how old you are - not what you are capable of doing. No matter your age, you can help someone and that was the exact thing I really hoped to do with my book, by sharing things from my own life. And that is just what I did. My book was even asked to be used at an asylum centre here in Europe.

What would have happened if I had let my age or my fear for other people stop me? I would not have been able to do the thing that made me ME and I wouldn't have been able to reach so many people. Below are some things the process of writing and publishing my book has taught me:


  1. Stop worrying about if you if you are too young to make a difference, because you are not.
  2. Stop worrying about what other people will think of you, because everyone will never come to like you. If you let yourself be defined by other people you will always end up being broken. Let God define you and let your worth come from Him, not people.
  3. Do not let fear stop you. Step out of your comfort zone and do the things you have always dreamed of doing. Because trust me, you can make a difference with the gifts and talents you have been given. You can never start too early.


Our guest blog posts are meant to inspire, connect, and share. Thank you Ida for your bravery and sharing your beautiful, well-thought-out words with our group. We encourage you to continue to inspire others, and for those reading this, please be sure to check out Ida's book AND check out her blog:

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4 Messages Our Peers Need to Hear

We recently asked our Be Your Own You fans to help us by contributing to our blog, and we received some great entries! We are proud to present our first guest blog, by Brittany Harmon.

When asked what provoked her

“What inspired me to write this was God speaking through me. When I was younger I wish more people would have told me these things. I heard them, but I had trouble believing them. I want to be more of a leader. And God is really showing me what being a leader means. These 4 messages have a lot to do with becoming the leader I want to be. When I said "God loves you, no matter what" I had to take time to believe that myself, so when I'm helping my peers I will be able to say, "hey.. I know how it feels, but God loves you and he always will. You're not alone"  it's so important that kids and teens nowadays understand that they're not alone, everyone makes mistakes because we're human. It's part of life. Having someone there for you that knows what this world holds can definitely help you grow in your faith and help you to become a leader yourself.”

Here is her article below:

4 Messages Our Peers Need to Hear

Words are more important than you think. They can wound, or even kill, but they can also affirm and build one up, too! I’ve been thinking, I want so badly for the next generation of young believers to know that they’re not alone and we love them so deeply. Here are some things that are important for our younger peers to hear:

God loves you, no matter what:
This should be repeated daily to them. “No matter what you’ve done, no matter what you will do, God loves you and always will. There’s nothing you could do that would make God stop loving you or love you any less.”

I love you:
It might sound a little cheesy, but do you know how many kids are just waiting to hear those 3 simple words? I’ve had a friend that I said that to, and she, in return, told me she’d never been told that before. That really breaks my heart. To fix this, we need to show our peers that we love them by spending time with them, investing in a relationship with them. Don’t forget to tell them “hey, I love you, you’re like a little brother/sister to me. I’m blessed to have you in my life.” Those few words can mean the entire world to them.

I forgive you:
Kids, teens, and even adults make mistakes. They’ll mess up at one point or another in their life. They might hurt you, or hurt someone else, they may do something that they shouldn’t have, but how you react to these situations can have a huge impact on them. What they need to hear is “I forgive you. And I still love you.” Remind them that messing is okay and that they’re human. It’s bound to happen!

Hang in there, don’t quit:
Encouraging our peers doesn’t mean telling them that everything is okay, that things will be better tomorrow. Encourage these young believers by telling them the truth. Ah yes, THE TRUTH. The truth is that: “struggles and trials are a part of Christian life. Just hang in there and don’t give up.”

“For I know the plans I have for you.” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Being a teen isn’t easy, nor is being a kid nowadays. Our peers and young believers need encouragement, both in struggles and in faith. Let’s help them continue in their faith because one day, they’ll be encouraging someone else.


Our guest blog posts are meant to inspire, connect, and share. Thank you Brittany for your bravery and sharing your beautiful, well-thought-out words with our group. We encourage you to continue to inspire others, and for those reading this, please be sure to comment below AND visit Brittany’s blog post to leave a comment there:

December 28, 2015


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New Years Resolutions to a Better You

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”

Well it’s that time of year again! The New Year is the best time to reflect back at what you have done well with, and where you can use improvement. We all want to be a better person and New Year is the best time to take resolutions to be an even BETTER you.

Here are few resolutions which that may help you to be a better person, which will in turn make you feel better, as well as the people around you.

It’s all about making habits, and good habits play an important role for anyone looking to improve on themselves and their life. To be a better person, you should always evaluate your habits and try to enhance the things are already making you feel the happiest and healthiest.

1. Take Care of Yourself Your body is the only one you get so keep it well-rested, active, and well-nourished. Focusing on eating healthy food and drinking lots of water can have a huge impact. You’ll notice that getting exercise each day will make you feel happy and energetic throughout the day. And you’ll get better sleep at night. It’s a win-win! So love yourself and your body and mind even more in the new year.

2. Volunteer When you give and help others without any expectations, you will feel happy from well within your heart. Find a weekly or monthly volunteer opportunity at a church or any nonprofit organization. You’ll meet new people, learn new things, and know that you’re making the world a better place. This is one of the best New Years resolutions to be a better person we could possibly think of!

3. Take Up a New Hobby There are so many amazing and unique hobbies out there. Sports, reading, crafting, traveling, yoga, art, cooking… there are thousands of things you can do! So pick one to start. This will make you a more interesting person, and can really improve the quality of your life.

4. Go Green Adopting habits like turning off the lights and electronic appliances when they’re not in use, and conserving water are great place to get started. Growing a garden, spending time outside instead of watching TV, walking or biking instead of driving, and recycling are a few other ideas.

A lot of you these ideas not only save valuable resources, but will also have a positive impact on YOU!

So there are a few New Years resolutions to be a better person, and make the world a better place. Do you have some ideas? Please share them below. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2016 from BYOU!

Cameron Diaz Is A True Example Of Being Your Own You

We LOVE this video from Cameron Diaz, who is a true example of being your own you. Cameron is true to herself, and her fans, and encourages them to come from a place of authenticity.

Cameron explains the difference between being famous for the right and wrong reasons, and does so very eloquently. What an awesome role model!

Check it out here:

We especially appreciated just how transparent Cameron came across to her fans, from her thought-provoking words to the super up-close-and-very-personal angle of the camera. To us at BYOU, that said “this is me, and I’m a normal person just like you.”

We live in a world in which celebrities are idolized, often times for the wrong reasons. Fame and fortune are broadcasted on social media, leading to a distorted perception of what it truly means to be a renown actor, singer, etc. Sometimes fans forget that they are real people too, and that they’re just like us.

So like Cameron, we encourage you not to be perfect, but to be perfectly you.

Be yourself!

What do YOU think of this video? Let us know in your comments below!
December 15, 2015


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Holiday Shopping Guide

Gifts are incredible part of life and everyone loves gifts. When you gift something to someone specially on special occasions, it makes you and the receiver feel special, especially when there is some special thought put into it.

So we made a quick little list of gift ideas for friends this holiday season! The best part of gifting something to your friends is you know what exactly they love, and we think these ideas are sure to be helpful to you!

Make a list of things the friend you are shopping for loves. This can be favorite animal, color, their goals and dreams, etc. Write it all down! You can search gifts at local shops, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or any other online shopping sites. Etsy is another great place to search for gifts, as well as Pinterest!

The possibilities are endless, but here are few gift ideas for friends and what you should keep on mind.

1. Handmade Gifts: Not sure what to purchase to gift your friend or maybe you’re on a bit of a budget? These can be some of the most meaningful gifts of all. When looking for gift ideas for friends, because they can carry the most meaning and show effort and planning.

This can be baked goods like cookies, a photo frame with a picture of the two of you, a scrapbook, photo magnets, and so many more.

2. Books: Not feeling crafty? There are books for everyone and everything out there, and this is a gift that keeps on giving! People tend to hold onto books for a very long time, and one size fits all. Better yet, they can loan out the book when they’re done, so your gift will go even further.

3. Something from our BYOU store of course! Here you’ll find very special gifts that fit any girl or woman in your life. Not sure what size to get? How about jewelry or hair accessories in their favorite color? You can even purchase a gift certificate that will get them something they want, and still gives the gift of empowerment to be your own you!

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The above are few gift ideas that your friend will love, and no matter what it is, it will be extra special because it is from YOU! Have some good gift ideas for friends of your own? We hope you’ll share them with us below, and maybe even give US some good ideas to give to our loved ones here at BYOU!

How to Love Yourself

You hear it all the time, that you should love yourself, no matter who you are, how you act, what you look like, where you grew up, etc.
But do you really know how important it is to love yourself? If you can’t love yourself first, then who will love you more than YOU do? Loving yourself will give you confidence to face the world boldly.

We know it can be hard sometimes. We can be so tough on ourselves, but have you ever tried sitting down and making a list of your strong points? Or how about the things you are simply grateful for?

One of our fans compared self-love to playing a sport, reading books, or playing an instrument. Basically anything that takes time! If you keep practicing, you become great in that particular skill, and it completely changes your life.

Some people make loving themselves look easy, but sometimes it is very tricky to know how to love yourself, or just to remember to do so. Here are few tips that will help to make this a habit:

1. Don’t Compare
It’s not fair to compare yourself with others, because no two people are the same! Just concentrate on YOU and being the best you can be. Everyone has to start somewhere, so give a hundred percent, and that alone will make you feel the best about yourself. Track YOUR improvements, not how you think you measure up to others.

2. Be Communicative
Sometimes the best way to achieve a goal or habit is to tell others about it, so they hold us accountable. Share you desires to learn to fully love yourself with friends and family. Chances
are, they will support you 100%, and who knows – maybe you will inspire them to do the same!

3. Be Giving
Ever heard the term “over deliver”? Or maybe you have a friend who is more generous than most? Being thoughtful and giving to others can actually make YOU feel better about yourself too. What’s more, don’t expect anything in return but that feeling that you are making the world a better place. In turn, you’ll receive more compliments and feel more love. Then the key is to ACCEPT and BELIEVE those compliments! That brings us to the next tip…

4. Accept It!
When someone pays you a compliment, say “thank you”, instead of deflecting and disagreeing or downplaying your accomplishments and positive attributes.

5. Know Your Strengths
Make a list of the things you want to work on, and practice those everyday. Then make a list of the things that make you happy, and another list of the things you are GREAT at. They can be little things like hugging, cleaning, school, running, etc. Maybe its your hair or the color you picked to paint your toenails! By doing this, we think you’ll find a few things that you love about yourself!

The above are few tips you can start practicing daily and you will surely learn the art of how to
love yourself, completely. And you should, because you are LOVEABLE just the way you are and it’s time to know it and believe it!

Supporting Your Friends in Time of Need

Friends are one of the best gift in the life. If one has a true friend, you are really VERY lucky! Making a hundred friends is not a miracle. The miracle is to make a single friend who will stand by your side even when hundreds are against you. There are so many amazing moments we spent with our friends.

Like any relationship, sometimes friendships require work.

Maybe you have a friend going through a tough time. Bullying, self esteem, losing a loved one – we all hit hard times at some point and can’t always face these things along. 

They might be in a rut emotionally or physically, but when challenges in life arise, that’s when friends are really needed.

You may not best know how to support a friend, if you can’t relate but here are a few ideas, no matter what they may be going through:

  1. ASK – Find out how you can help them through this time of need. This way, you are giving them the option to allow you to help them.

  2. TELL – Let them know you’re thinking about them with a visit, text, or call out of the blue. Think of what you would want from your friends if you were in their shoes!

  3. GIVE – Maybe it’s a small gesture like baking cookies, or a warm hug. A supportive smile or a hug makes your friend feel that they are not alone to go through the problem and they feel that you are really there for them.

  4. LISTEN – Hear what they are saying and not just at face value. Hear their problem completely, and communicate with them with simple phrases like “would you like to share what happened with you” or “I think there is some problem, please feel free to tell me, I am here for you to listen”. Sometimes your friend doesn’t want advice, and they just want someone trustworthy to listen them so that they can express what’s on their mind.

Sometimes your friend might need to be alone, but don’t let them FEEL alone. There is a difference. Encourage them to go out and meet people, or to spend time with friends and family. 

They too may need to reach out to others, and ask for support. Sometimes distractions can be good, while other times it’s great to discuss the source head-on.

Knowing how to support a friend is an amazing art you will use throughout your life and is an important part of friendship. Supporting a friend going through tough time is tricky. Try to go in flashback and remember your difficult times and how your friends and family supported or helped you. Or maybe how you wish you were supported. Putting yourself in their shoes will give you a clue how to support a friend who really needs you in their difficult time and they will surely be there for you when you need them the most too!