Why this tele-seminar series is so
effective is because it takes the tool of the ACCESS acronym and
leverages the reminder into weekly trainings:
Week 1 – A:
Awareness/Acceptance/Accountability (the 3-A’s) – An
understanding that we cannot and should not shield ourselves and our
girls from the reality that you will face. Unless you plan to
live in a remote area of the world and never interact with another
living being, the two of you are going to have experiences that have
you question who you are and whether or not you are “good enough.”
Our goal is to offer tools that allow you to not only cope with, but
benefit from, these experiences, as well as learn to develop a
proactive mindset that eliminates these challenging experiences
altogether.
Do
you know the difference between the layers that dim your
Heartlight and that you are accountable for, and the ones that
you
must accept to travel through
the emotion and shine all the brighter for the experience?
Would
you like to know this very important difference?
Week 2 – C: Communication –
Talking is often mistaken for communication. The reality is
that most of us don’t really have the skills or education to
actually accomplish this part of the equation. Taking into account
that different stages and ages require different communication
skills, and the fact that we each have individually completely
different communication styles from each other, it’s no wonder high
degrees of miscommunication occur. You must equip yourself with
tools to communicate with yourself (yes, YOURSELF) and your girl(s)
at their level, and just as importantly to know how to ask others to
communicate with you in ways you actually understand.
How
many of your conversations do you know that your words were
spoken and acknowledged, yet you question
whether or not you were actually
heard and your message even comprehended?
Would
you like to learn HOW to communicate more effectively – more
heart-to-heart - both with yourself and others?
Week 3 – C: Consistency –
This is the second hardest stage of this system. With the real
world continuously shifting, as role models we must remain constant
with our message and, more importantly, consistent with our
actions. The hardest part is to realize that as we, and as our
girls, are maturing, our needs and challenges are different. Though
we must maintain a consistent message, the means to deliver that
consistent message must mature with us and our girls. To do so we
must know and believe in who we are at our core so our messaging is
AUTHENTIC, REAL, and BELIEVABLE.
Imagine
if your message and your actions were consistent and you were
guided be an unburdened Heartlight,
what would you be able to
accomplish? What kind of a role model would you be?
Would you like to experience the benefits of this empowered
state?
Week 4 – E: Example – This
is the hardest stage of this system. The most impactful role
model in the world on young girls is YOU. All too often we
inadvertently exercise the “do as I say, not as I do” system.
If we took the time to count how often we attack our own Heartlight
on a daily basis, it would shock most people. We set examples
for our girls - if the most impactful role model in the world on our
young impressionable girls demonstrates self-abuse, it sends a clear
message to them to do the same.
How often are
you guilty of exercising the “do as I say, not as I do?” More
importantly, how often
are you critical to the face in the mirror for not “dong’ as you
‘say’?
Would you like to learn true self-love and to become a positive
role model?
Would you like to live in
complete integrity with yourself (and her) – day in and day out?
Week 5 – S: Silliness –
(yes, silliness!) One of the things we hear the most often is that
our girls are “growing up way too fast.” This is definitely a
result of the information available to them 24/7 via the internet
and media, but also a result of expectations we set. Often, we
forget that children play, not only for entertainment, but as a
learning tool and so do adults! We do not practice what we
preach. When is the last time you were just silly on your own or
with the girl in your life? Though a girl may not admit it to
her friends, she longs for the silliness she once knew – as do you!
For a time when you were free to be YOU, without fear of judgment
from others – this fear stems from your own internal critic. As we
allow silliness, we allow playfulness, which leads to openness – an
essential bonding tool for you and for her.
Have
you developed so many layers on your Heartlight that you are too
afraid to be as silly and playful as you want to be?
Would you like to remove these
layers to experience a long-lost freedom and joy? To be who you
REALLY are?
Week 6 – S: Substance –
This is where the deep seeded bond becomes reality. You love
yourself, as well as your special girl, but it takes an effort to
demonstrate it to the BOTH of you. Substance is not only the
saying, but the doing. Nothing will add diming layers to a
Heartlight faster than to have the previous five stages be
superficial. This is where we ‘seal the deal.’
It
is so easy in today’s world to have the best of intentions, but
how often have you caught yourself ignoring her, making other
things a priority, (like telling her that you’ll be right there
and then another call comes in and you take it)? How often have
you promised yourself any number of actions and chosen to
sacrifice YOUR desires?
Would you like to build the
inner strength to always KNOW the right thing to do, even in the
midst of chaos? What would it feel like to be a woman of true
inner unwavering strength and substance?
You deserve to have the knowledge
and the skills to ACCESS all that your beautiful Heartlight longs
to share with you!
